Goals and dreams
Over 40 years ago the Dogs Trust coined the phrase ‘A dog is for life, not just for Christmas’. We could apply the same thinking to the resolutions many of us make between Christmas and the turn of the year.
How often is a dream floated – “I’m going to change career this year”, “I’m going to lose weight”, “I’m going to take a new qualification”, “I’m going to find a work-life balance”. How often is it achieved? How often does it disappear in the busyness of life?
What is a resolution?
It’s a promise that you make to yourself:
- to do something such as become more organised, get fitter, learn a new skill, or
- not to do something such as stopping smoking, overspending, or consistently staying late at work.
How many people keep their promises to themselves? Did you make any for 2024? How are they progressing? Have you made a start?
Hurdles and swift solutions
There are often obstacles in the way. Rather than let them deter you, think how to overcome them.
- A vague idea in the mind? Write it down.
- Is it too general? Be specific.
- Is it unrealistic? make it realistic.
- Unmotivated? In a rut? Setting goals will motivate you.
- Disorganised? Make a clear plan; organise your thoughts and information.
You will need a SMART plan of action.
To achieve what you wish for yourself, requires a course of action – a plan. The next step is to carry out that plan. The best plans are SMART = Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Bound.
The S of SMART is crucial. It’s your starting point and how specific you are will make your goal more measurable. For example, suppose you want to “have more fun”. What does the “fun” consist of? If the most important thing missing is a holiday or two, list the holidays you want. These are measurable: you will certainly know when you’ve had them! Are they achievable? This might mean planning holidays that are affordable, possible to arrange and available. How relevant is it? Does it fit with your work, right to time off and other obligations? Is it time-bound? When will you decide and book them and when will you take these holidays?
Two important steps
- Make a detailed plan of action, of the steps to achieve your goals and when you will take them.
- Monitor your progress at the end of each week to ensure that you’re creating the future you see for yourself.
Make more resolutions throughout the year. A resolution is not a throwaway line made in the moment at a festive party. It’s an expression of how you want to shape your life towards a better future.
Would you like some extra help?
Some people find that writing their goals and referring to these notes very helpful. If this works for you, consider a resolution planner. (Please see my Goals & Resolutions workbook.)
Alternatively, you may find life coaching beneficial, helping you to decide and focus upon your goals.
I wish you every success in achieving your goals and achieving positive change.
